I had the misfortune yesterday to receive a rather nasty email from
a fellow Orchid member. The poster expressed the opinion that s/he
thought my posts were constantly annoying, long-winded and “high and
mighty”, among other nasty comments.
Im writing this, not to name names or garner support - I know Im
welcomed as a member of Orchid (although this email knocked me for
six and left me wondering whether to stop posting altogether in case
others thought the same) - but to urge anyone else who experiences
this, to report such emails to Hanuman. I dont mean to put more work
on Hanuman, but if such incidences are recorded, then it can be
dealt with if such behaviour escalates further. Hanuman was as
always, very lovely in putting my mind at rest about this matter.
I am big enough to take constructive criticism about my work and
sincerely welcome that, but personal attacks are another matter.
Heres hoping we can all be a bit more civilized with each other,
even in off-list emails.
Orchid is a flame free zone.
I’ve been insulted! How should I respond?
Your response can take a number of forms. The first and most
important thing you should do is to take a break and cool off.
Replies written in the heat of anger are seldom any better than the
postings which inspire them.
Now that you’ve cooled off, go back and consider the offending
message again. If it’s nothing but baseless arguments, then the best
response is to completely ignore it
If, on the other hand, the posting contains inaccuracies which you
feel need to be addressed, then it is perfectly reasonable to send a
follow-up message which does so.
However, the ideal approach is to ignore any hysteria, and stick
with the facts. Be reasonable and rational, point out the errors,
and avoid any personal attacks.