Cindy, I am glad that so many people are pointing out the possible
psychological issues in this thread. I have been flamed at a couple
of times for making assumptions about folks attitudes and reasons, so
I won’t make any assumptions now, [I hope].
The advice to know when to walk away is really, really important.
Everyone needs to make a living, having said that, taking on jobs
when alarms are going off in your head is another. More work will
always show up.
Repairing and designing jewelry are really hard because one must
deal with the client in their emotional space. Everyone has issues,
it isn’t up to us to fix the person or make them happy. We only need
to satisfy them in a professionally capacity with our work, [which of
course, may make them happy!].
If you know that a repair job is going to be difficult to do
properly, and they aren’t willing to pay the cost pass up the job.
Like I said more work will come.
I have sold folks new jewelry on occasion because I was honest about
the piece they thought that they wanted repaired. It is worn out,
and they didn’t really know that. It is up to us to tell folks the
truth about their jewelry. I repeat, if they won’t pay what it really
takes to do a good job, let em walk.
It isn’t your job to meet unrealistic expectations. Nor is it your
fault if you can’t meet their emotional needs. You are just
protecting yourself from future problems with that client if you know
when to walk away.
I know others have told you the same thing, it is the truth. Some
folks, usually the most picky, are often the problem clients, they
need and they need and they need. It isn’t really about the jewelry;
learn to pick up on who those potential foks are and you will save
yourself from a load of grief.
Good luck, Dennis