Tradition/myth/supersition? (semi-YAK)

Hi Folks,

I seem to have heard, or read recently that a jeweler is not
supposed to make his/her own wedding set. It’s bad luck, or
something. I believe the reference was that you’d end up paying
in other ways. Maybe it was in a recent issue of Lapidary
journal.

Is this an age-old practice, or something new? Has anyone else
ever heard this… does everyone else know this except me?

Dave

Dave Sebaste
Sebaste Studio
Charlotte, NC (USA)
dave@sebaste.com
http://www.sebaste.com

Dave,

Never heard of it, my wedding bands were the reason I took my
first jewelry class. We have been together almost ten years…if
there is some kind of curse you wouldn’t know it by us.

Karen

Northern Illinois

@karenworks1

David,

I made our rings 24 1/2 years ago. We love each other dearly and
I believe that superstitions are what the person wants to believe
will happen. If they were always based on fact, we wouldn’t need
superstitutions. Enjoy each other. It’s a great road to walk
with someone.

Tim Glotzbach
Eastern Kentucky University
@artglotz

I know I could never make my own wedding ring because, wearing it
every day and having it there all the time, I would constantly be
finding new flaws and need to fix them, or want to change the whole
thing. But, that’s just the evil, demented perfectionist that
lives inside of me, I guess.

Tobey Robinson
Adoremus Creations in Metal
Burnaby, BC, Canada

Dave,

I never heard of it. I made our wedding rings over 25 yrs. ago
and all is well. fine, and good!

Regards,

Skip

                                  Skip Meister
                                NRA Endowment and
                                   Instructor
                                @Skip_Meister
                                02/09/9815:00:02

Hello Dave:

I don’t know if that is a chronilogically-challenged spouse’s tale
or a superstition. I made our first set 16 years ago in college,
when I first started watch repair and our second set when I was
just about to graduate from jewelry.
I am very delinquent on the third set.
I think this belief was devised by a jeweler who, in his infinite
wisdom, did not want to make a new set every few years.
We are happily married and you should make the rings if you want
to.And by the way,you will pay in other ways anyway.

Michael Mathews Victoria,Texas USA

I was always told that it was bad luck to the extreme to make your
own wedding bands. Case in point - my friends Sean and Patter were
getting married on a saturday afternoon at four. He hadn’t made the
ring, kept putting it of, and finally had to make it on that
saturday at two oclock. He was late to the wedding. If you know
Patter, well, let’s just say she wasn’t pleased. Bad luck indeed.

Laura

DON’T make you wedding bands. I made mine and hers for my first
marriage…she turned out to be BAD NEWS! When we broke, I went
to work one morning and when I got home NOTHING was in the house
except for the recliner that SHE hated! Can’t say that they all
work out that way but just thought I would share my story. I am
remarried to a great woman now and I didnt dare make either one of
our rings! :slight_smile:

Steve Dickey
@Steve

Hi,

Make your rings! I made my first set of rings over 25 years ago
in 18kt. white dental gold. For my 25th anniversary last Sept. I
gave my wife the rings I wished I could have afforded when we
married. They were a 55pt. VVS color G center with two 4mm blue
Sapphires in 18kt., and a 5 stone wedding band also in 18kt. with
3mm stones of(3 diamonds, 2 sapphires) the same color and grade as
the main ring. I secretly saved for over 7 years to buy those
stones without my wife missing a dime out of the families
resources.

Regards,

Skip

                                  Skip Meister
                                NRA Endowment and
                                   Instructor
                                @Skip_Meister
                                02/10/9800:30:18

I’ve been wanting to re-design my wedding rings for some time now
but keep putting it off. Couldn’t figure out why the
procrastination until I read Tobey’s message…Evil, Demented
Perfectionist~~well, that sums it up nicely!!! Thanks :wink:

Kathie
New Moon Designs

I was always told that it was bad luck to the extreme to make your
own wedding bands.  Case in point - my friends Sean and Patter were
getting married on a saturday afternoon at four. He hadn't made the
ring, kept putting it of, and finally had to make it on that
saturday  at two oclock. He was late to the wedding.  If you know
Patter, well, let's just say she wasn't pleased.  Bad luck indeed.

Ummm…no offense but this had nothing to do with luck. Sounds
like another case of the cobblers children having no shoes, or in
my case “the jewelers husband having no cuff links”. Guilty myself
sometimes, but I sure didn’t fool around with the wedding bands.

Another case in point, the professor I got my masters with made
his wife a huge gold and multi stone ring free form 70’s style for
his wife as a wedding ring. The apartment building they were in at
the time caught on fire and a helpful firefighter went to retrieve
some valuables for them after the blaze was under control. He
brought down the “valuables” from her dresser and she said “oh no,
where is my wedding ring?” Turns out it was so big and strange to
him he assumed it was some wacky costume jewelry and left it there.
The ring was retrieved and 30ish yrs later they have the ring, the
marriage and a couple of great college age kids to disprove the
curse.

Karen, Northern Illinois

@karenworks1