Here is an interesting story and a question for everyone:
Two years ago a long-time acquaintance approached me and asked me to
design her wedding ring. She had met a lovely man and they wanted to
get married. I agreed. Theirs was a long-distance relationship so
she was between California and Michigan. She sent me styles (wide)
that interested her and told me that she loved some of my
floral-themed rings, asking me to please email her designs. I spent
3 hours drawing out multiple designs in detail, scanning and
emailing them to her. She loved them all and said she would get back
A month or so later we met at a coffee shop not close to my home.
She asked me to bring my sketch book. That meeting took another 3
hours of me drawing out designs and her changing her mind over and
over and over again. She did finally say that she definitely liked
one in particular.
At this point I have drawn 24 designs for this ring. That’s a first.
Hopefully a last. I did speak to her fiance, he is a lovely guy. She
is very nice but indecisive. The fiance sent me a downpayment of
$800 to get started on the very wide 18 k gold ring that I would
carve, cast and set. She was to get back to me to confirm which
design she wanted.
She never got back to me. Despite my multiple calls and emails to
her… 10 months passed.
At the 10 month point she emailed me, confirming that she wanted to
go ahead, but changed her mind again, altering the “favorite” to
change it to an open-work pattern. She “thinks” this is what she
finally wants, but wants to talk. I have called and written. No
reply. That was 4 weeks ago.
6 days ago I received a call from the fiance. He wanted to know what
was going on? I told him in as light a way as possible, that she
still was undecided about the design. He asked me point blank if I
had run into this before? I had to say that I had not, but that some
indecisiveness is normal. I asked if he would like me to return his
$800 until they sort it all out. I did tell him that if I returned
the money, I would have to keep some for the design work which is
usually included in the price of the finished ring. He was adamant
that he does not want the money back. He said he would speak to her
and get back to me. He has not. I have warned both of them that
should the price of gold go up or down, the final price would have
to reflect that fluctuation. He is ok with that.
So I am scratching my head here. Guessing that she really does not
want to marry this guy, but wants to stay in the relationship and
can’t tell him. Keeping the money until he says otherwise sounds
weird, but ok. If I refund the deposit, how much should I keep for
the design work? I am thinking around $200 considering the driving
around, multiple calls and time to email etc… What do you guys
File this under: Weirdest wedding ring experience to date.
PS: Please do feel free to share your own weird wedding ring
stories. I could use a laugh.
-Lisa (Spent yesterday rearranging 16’ pipe corral panels for my
lower goat pen. Man those suckers are heavy!) Topanga, CA USA