There is a terrific book which I highly recommend to anyone who
finds themselves in this kind of situation. It is called, “Difficult
Conversations.” We have all had similar awkward moments where in
doing something nice turns sour, because of our inability to
communicate our story and both parties are hurt because of
Read this book, it will help. Learn from the experience and sit down
with your acquaintance and ask what was her motivation. Explain to
her how you feel about the transaction and She might see you as the
magical metalsmith that can do anything with anything. She might
have been embarrassed at purchasing a huge cache of opals thinking
that they were more than they actually are, but instead handed you
the package and said,“here, deal with these.”
My point is that it is amazing how much energy we store in holding
onto grudges and blame for past events without fully knowing what
created the miscommunication in the first place.
This book has helped me in my business transactions, customer
negotiations, family stress and my own relationships.
You will hear many should do’s and shouldn’t do’s, but ultimately in
the end, your education in how to communicate in the future will
allow you the freedom to flow and not be encumbered by awkward
scenarios. We are quick to blame, take things personal but we rarely
ask the hard and difficult questions.
Woulda, should, coulda. Wipe them clean and start again.