So my question is (sorry to be so long winded)...how can I get this
yucky epoxy out of my pendant.
Soak the entire piece (not the whole necklace, just the bit with the
epoxy) in Attack, a nasty chemical you can buy from your favorite
jewelry supply house. Soak in a CLOSED container, overnight. That
should do it.
Then maybe upgrade your epoxy to the pourable kind you can measure
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