change you and make you a better person. After a time you do
improve, she feels like she worked a miracle when you actually
just returned to you natural baseline of behavior. everybody's
In other words, Mark, begin your life together as a couple on a lie!
That's wrong in so many ways.
I found that the way you start anything whether it's a relationship,
business venture or a piece of jewelry, is the way you will always
work. If you start with good habits, making an effort, the right
skills, you'll always have that. Start off badly, and the finish
isn't going to get better, but worse. Kind of like soldering, the
better the join before you start soldering, the better and easier the
As for me, when there's something I don't like doing, I tend to do
it first. Get it over with and then I can move on to the things I
love to do as a reward for myself.