Belinda,
I sympathize with you 110% here. I too, am a prime candidate for a
crybaby award. Im just starting a long sought after apprenticeship
at a great place, with really talented and great people. But even
after years of doing jewelry as a hobby, and more recently pursued it
as a career since becoming disabled, that last couple years I only
worked at my bench occasionally, and then only in silver. I just
focused mostly on my GIA GG studies, hoping that might get me in the
door. But I was so depressed with the lack of ability to find a place
to teach me, and learning on ones own has the drawbacks of no real
feedback. You can read all the books and watch all the videos known
to man kind, and you might think your doing a good job, but you’ll
never really know because no trained eye is around evaluate it. I’ve
recently discovered some of what I thought was proper, is wrong, and
have to un-learn, then re-learn. Not as easy as just learning the
right way first.
So Im basically trying just to get back up to speed on my bench
skills. But not having all the correct materials, solders, and such,
I have to get my own for the apprenticeship, makes it a slow process.
Ive been trying to make everything with just extra easy silver
solder, which is very hard, but I’ve have managed so far. And trying
to get my piercing, layouts, set ups and so on up to what my mentors
would consider an acceptable level. So when walking into the
apprenticeship my confidence was fairly stable. But after starting
there, its gone down hill greatly, and that makes it harder to do the
work, but I still do it. On top of that, one person at the shop, who
otherwise is one of the best people you ever want to be around, is
always reminding me of my mistakes, and even making what he calls
"jokes" about how Dan will be able to screw it up. Dan, being me. Or
when anything at all happens, the first person that he seems to call
out for is, Me! But once seeing it wasn’t me, he still has to lecture
me on what not to do, and tell me to make sure I don’t do it. All
started from one mistake I made, that was decided to have been made
do to miscommunication. I filed some mill grain off that didn’t cast
well, so only a few were barely visible, and this person told me to
leave enough on to mill grain. I was never told these few sporadic
bumps in the casting were mill grain, and I was never shown what the
finished piece should look like either. I was basically going in
blind on slim orders. But I get to hear about it everyday for almost
2 months now. I can tell you its not really a confidence booster to
be told things like that constantly.
Im not sure if this is something intentional, or accidental, but it
sure doesn’t help. I think Ive lost 10 pounds in the last month just
from stress. Oh, and now he is telling me it will be years before he
thinks I will be ready to learn stone setting. That’s a real ego
booster too. I keep thinking Im screwing up due to it, and worry I
will lose my apprenticeship. And sometimes, on days when my spine
pain is really bad, the extra pain medication doesn’t help. So I have
to work harder to counter the drowsiness and brain fog. I know, I’m
probably making way to much out of this, and I know from many years
of previous employment that every work place has people like this,
but its very stressful at this time in my life. There is so much at
stake here.
I understand and think you are totally justified in your terror.
With so much at stake, and when you never know just what is the one
thing that will have them telling you to get out the door, its scary
as scary can be. I wish I had something enlighten to tell you, I
really don’t. I can suggest trying to do what I do right now. I know
no matter how hard I try, I cant just ignore the negative “jokes”,
but I try not to dwell on them, and I try harder to prove myself.
Sometime unsuccessfully though, and hence, more ridicule. Oops,
sorry, I mean “jokes”. I don’t have near the stress you do of
expensive stones, most of my stuff is with my own tools and material.
But I slow down, take my time, and do the best I can, pushing myself
a little more each time. And even then, no matter who good or bad it
looks, but then that just gets me the “jokes” about having to charge
$600 a piece because of the time it took me to make it. I don’t see
it ending, so I need to deal with it the best I can, and work to get
the most out of this apprenticeship I can, while I can.
If I was in your situation though, I would ask your boss about
sending things you don’t feel confident with out to someone else to
do it. At least until you feel you can do them yourself. But I think
these kinds of stresses and feelings of terror at just part of the
working world for most people. In the end, you can try what I do,
just grit your teeth and keep singing the words from that famous
movie, finding Nemo. " Just keep swimming, swimming swimming, just
keep swimming.
Oh, I also like the Sinatra, Rubber tree song in times like theses
as well. Just something to keep you from dwelling on the negative, so
you can make it through another day.