I apologise from the start that this is a very emotional plea, and
hope that it does not offend anybody.
Basically, my lovely daughter is 31 weeks pregnant with her first
child, and at the beginning of March, her beloved boyfriend and
father of their baby girl took his own life. Obviously it has been a
tremendous shock to all who knew and loved him, including myself as
I had grown to love him as a son. My daughter’s world has been turned
upside down. I don’t want to mention names as I don’t want to upset
his family by mentioning him openly on a public forum.
Anyway, my daughter’s boyfriend was cremated about a month ago and
his parents have sent her some of his ashes so that she can
incorporate them into some jewellery. She has bought a lovely little
sterling silver, heart-shaped urn, specially designed for the
purpose, and would really like his name on the front and a few words
engraved on the back.
Unfortunately, as she has now been left to bring up their baby girl
by herself, she cannot afford to pay for it at the moment, as she has
so many baby things to buy. She has moved back in with us so that we
can help her look after her baby, but we’re tight for cash at the
moment too, as we have had to convert and decorate a room for her and
baby, and have had two long-distance funerals to attend in the last
month (the second of which was her favourite grandmother who died a
couple of weeks ago too).
My question is: is there anyone in the UK who does engraving, who
would be prepared to engrave her urn pendant for free? I know it’s a
big ask and probably very cheeky, but I thought it wouldn’t hurt to
ask. She’s keen to get it done as soon as possible, as she wants to
put his ashes in the pendant once it’s been engraved. She said that
she wants to do the same for her daughter, ie buy the same urn
pendant for her daughter, to give to her when she’s older, but that
she will gladly pay for the engraving on the second pendant, as she
will hopefully be in a better financial position then (she’s planning
to buy the second pendant and have it engraved within the next year).
I am sorry if this request has upset or offended anybody, but I felt
I had to ask, as my daughter is really going through it at the
moment and desperately wants to have him close to her as soon as
possible, by wearing the urn pendant, engraved, filled and sealed.
Thanking you wonderful Orchid folk in advance,
Helen Hill
UK